He treats me with respect, and I feel very autonomous in the relationship, but why would a man who’s older than my father seek out a much younger men? Can our relationship possibly be healthy? I try to ignore what they say and focus on our relationship, but it's getting tougher, and I'm starting to worry they may be right. Whenever my parents find out I'm still dating him, they go off about what a "predator" he is. He takes me on nice vacations and pays for my dinners. He's 57 years old-making us 35 years apart-and also happens to be wealthy. The problem is, I'm constantly judged for being with him. (He made losing my virginity a not-totally-awkward experience!) He's kind, smart, funny, and the sex is great.
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